Daily Hadith Wed 25-Nov-2020 - 08 Rabbi al-Thanni 1442 حديث اليوم
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Recommendations with regard to Women
`Abdullah bin Zam`ah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported that he heard the Prophet (PBUH) giving a speech when he mentioned the she-camel (of Prophet Salih) and the man who had killed her. Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said: "When the most wicked man among them went forth (to kill the she-camel). (91:12) signifies that a distinguished, wicked and most powerful chief of the people jumped up to kill the she-camel." Then he (PBUH) made mention of women and said, "Some of you beat your wives as if they were slaves, and then lie with them at the end of the day".Then he (PBUH) admonished them against laughing at anothers passing of wind, saying, "Why does any of you laugh at another doing what he does himself"
[Al-Bukhari and Muslim].

Although Islam has permitted man, in inevitable circumstances, to rebuke his wife, it has also suggested a very wise course for it. It has suggested that first of all he should advise and preach her, and if she does not mend her ways by these means, then he should stop sleeping with her, which is a great warning for the sensible wife. If she does not improve even by this method, then he may take recourse to slight beating, but in that he must avoid her head and face. He should take recourse to beating if he thinks that it would work, otherwise it is better to avoid it. But surprisingly enough some start the process of reformation with beating and that too with great ruthlessness which has not been permitted by Islam in any case. It is this aspect which the Prophet (PBUH) has highlighted in this Hadith. He has contended that when the wife is indispensable for man and it is very difficult for him to pass night without her then why should he beat her like a slave or bondmaid? He should try to understand that she, too, has feelings and her position is like one of the two wheels of the cart of life. If at all it comes to beating her then he must keep her true status in view before taking recourse to it. He should never loose sight of her importance in conjugal life.
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مقترحاتكم نسخة للطباعة احاديث الباب آيات الباب الحديث السابق
باب الوصية بالنساء
وعن عبد اللَّه بن زَمْعَةَ رضي اللَّهُ عنه ، أَنه سمعَ النبيَّ صَلّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وسَلَّم يخْطُبُ ، وذكَر النَّاقَةَ والَّذِى عقَرهَا ، فقال رسول اللَّه صَلّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وسَلَّم : « إِذِ انْبعث أَشْقَاهَا » انْبعثَ لَها رَجُلٌ عزِيزٌ، عارِمٌ منِيعٌ في رهْطِهِ ثُمَّ ذكَرَ النِّساءَ ، فَوعظَ فِيهنَّ ، فَقالَ : « يعْمِدُ أَحَدكُمْ فيجْلِدُ امْرأَتَهُ جلْد الْعَبْدِ فلَعلَّهُ يُضاجعُهَا مِنْ آخِر يومِهِ » ثُمَّ وَعَظهُمْ في ضحكهِمْ مِن الضَّرْطَةِ وقال : «لِمَ يضحكُ أَحَدَكُمْ مِمَّا يفعلُ ؟ » متفق عليه .« وَالْعارِمُ » بالعين المهملة والراءِ : هُو الشِّرِّيرُ المُفْسِد ، وقولُه : « انبعثَ »، أَيْ : قَامَ بسرعة .
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Wed 25-Nov-2020 - 08 Rabbi al-Thanni 1442